Chicken Soup On A Rainy Day…

It was a dark and stormy day today. After a whole day tantric massage and misc business works,  a perfect time if you’re feeling in the mood for a minor depressive episode, like the one I encountered when I overheard a friend of mine mumbling somberly for all ears to hear, ” If I were at the edge of a bridge today, I just might…”

“JUMP?!” I joyfully exclaimed. She looked up at me with sad, but curious eyes. I knew it would take a little shock and humor to pull him out of the hole she was in the midst of digging for himself. Continue reading Chicken Soup On A Rainy Day…

Embracing Intimacy: The Art of Tantric Massage

Discover the profound realm of tantric massage, where intimacy transcends mere technique. Like a skilled artist who paints with emotions, a proficient lover embraces the art of emotional connection and presence. In this exploration of the sacred exchange between partners, we delve into the essence of tantric massage and tantric lovemaking, where vulnerability, trust, and genuine intimacy intertwine to create a transformative experience of love and pleasure. Let us journey together into the depths of this ancient practice, where giving and receiving become a dance of souls, and sensuality becomes a conduit for profound connection.

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Why Sensual Massage is so pleasurable

I’ve been in sensual massage business for many years, never thought about the essense of this kind of massages. I had a business trip to Sydney last week, and I have exprienced a nice nude massage with Secret massage in Sydney , quite enjoyable and when I enjoy the service this question just came into my mind: Why Sensual Massage is so pleasurable? Is that just because sexual energy or there is something else? Few experiences pierce the deepest recesses of your senses as intensely as the sensual, satiating warmth of a goddess’ body caressing yours.

Every hair on the back of your neck stands firm, electrified by the sensation. Every pigment stirs with excitement, trembling as it surrenders to total satisfaction. Even the most talkative are silenced in an instant.

Why so pleasurable – how can mere touch penetrate the recesses of your nerves, find the buttons buried deep within them and press them with such force that they release a wave of satisfaction that threatens to overwhelm you?

Perhaps it is the sheer openness of the celestial creature leaning over you, her inhibitions cast aside as she reveals a naked, flawless bosom, the epitome of excellence at its most seductively vulnerable. A primitive instinct calmed and tamed. But it is not calm alone you seek, but excitement, and it is not vulnerability you receive, but dominance. For this specimen of seduction that rolls so sensuously over you is not a defenceless soul but a powerful deity, driven by unbridled trust, guided by a knowledge of your body that you could only wish to attain. When commanding authority meets breathtaking bliss, all you have to do is submit to her will and the key to infinite pleasure is in your hands.

So wear your self-consciousness lightly, for all shyness and reticence have a shelf-life that will soon end. All anxiety, all stress, all the burdens of modern life are merely natural reactions, as expendable and temporary as any passing thought. The firm touch of a woman’s hands – which you are now eagerly imagining – sends feelings of companionship and comfort through your veins. For all the pleasure she gives, she will take away just as much fear and let it disintegrate before your very eyes.

The benefits of naked touch? Don’t ask, experience. Let sensual massage help the world melt away, leaving nothing but heaven in its wake.

Tantric: I Know Who I am and I Know What I Want

How does that sound to you? Do you have that much clarity in you?

It has been a long time since I last wrote. I have not forgotten about writing nor have I stopped processing, but life events took a toll on my energy and I had to drop many things, writing being one of them.

A while ago I took part in a men’s workshop by Taki’h at Tampere. It was a workshop about Dark and Light Masculine. I’ve had mixed feelings about the men’s groups and workshops. I have tried to find experiences that better suit me and some have, but no workshop has been able to deliver insight and value like this workshop by Taki’h.

Taki’h is a warm and sweet, small woman. You may wonder: How on earth is she teaching a workshop for men? Well, it’s not about gender, size, or physicality. Masculinity is more about the inner qualities and inner processes than any outer expression or action.

The work Taki’h offered us during this weekend intensive is called The Cross. It’s based on Taki’h’s extensive experience in teaching groups and living out her philosophy. The idea of the Cross comes from Bruce Lyon. It includes the Light and Dark Feminine as well, and all these qualities are – or could be – alive in each of us. When we have access to all four quadrants, we can experience more freedom and harmony in our lives.

In this article, I will focus on the Dark Masculine, as the greatest insights I got from the workshop were about the “darker” side of masculinity.

What is Dark Masculine?

The idea of a dark something can bring a negative connotation. To define Dark Masculinity, however, you would instead use words like clarity, presence, focus, owning your “stuff”, taking responsibility. It’s earthy, bodily, matter and form. Taki’h calls the distortions in these realms Shadows. Shadows are things kept hidden and secret from others and even from oneself, consciously and unconsciously. Also, the distinction was made between Dark and Evil. Evil seeks to destroy intentionally, whereas Dark will let go of what needs to go.

I was attracted to this workshop for many reasons. First, as I already mentioned: I haven’t been able to find men’s work that would resonate with me and I trusted that Taki’h could deliver something I like. The second reason was that I didn’t quite know what the Dark Masculine would be, or how it would relate to the Light Masculine, which I better understood. Third, I have wanted to find brothers and brotherhood, some men to connect with, consciously.

For me, it has always been easier to access the Light, expansion, through meditation and other practices I have done in my life. Thus far it has been more difficult to access the raw, the animal side of me. Somehow I thought, self-righteously, that the Light is better than the Dark. And it had cost me. To be able to live my life in Freedom, I would need to incorporate both the Light and Dark.

It feels to me that the healthy Dark Masculine as it is described here is often misunderstood and maybe even feared. Masculinity is often seen for it’s negative, or shadow sides, without understanding that there’s a healthy side to it as well. Healthy masculinity doesn’t need to exploit or dominate in order to prove something. Abuse of power is not healthy, while consent is very much part of the Dark Masculinity.

My Experience

In the beginning of the workshop, I thought I didn’t have a connection to the Dark Masculinity at all. It was very insightful to find out about the healthy and unhealthy sides of both Light and Dark Masculine. When we went through the list of unhealthy traits of Dark Masculinity, it really struck me. How unfair I have been, how much bullshit I have poured out, especially in my close relationships with women. I felt ashamed that my connection to and the expression of the Dark Masculinity has been mostly on the unhealthy, on the shadow side of it.

Even if I know that I don’t always behave in an appropriate manner, I haven’t been able to change it. I didn’t quite understand where it was coming from. I have been reactive and even arrogant, and definitely verbally attacking without knowing why. I’ve been blaming the other, when in fact, it’s all about me anyway. Now that I know where this shady behaviour is coming from, it immediately started to loosen its grip. Most likely it won’t be an overnight miracle change even if it feels like it at the moment. To grow it needs to be nourished and practiced in real life and in real situations.

It really felt like this work offered a real and long-lasting solution to a puzzle where the pieces haven’t fit quite right. I felt the change immediately as we practiced being in the states of the Light Masculine and Dark Masculine. It felt very good to be able to recognize and call forth the Dark, strong quality in me, and to be able to bring it out.

It amazes me how subtle Takih’s work actually is, in outward terms, but how profound an effect it can have. She uses simple practices alone and with others, deep reflection and feeling emotions to bring about change. A few of the brothers who attended this workshop defined it as life-changing, and I agree with that bold statement as well. I was able to meet my partner from a completely new place that was wonderful and loving for both of us.

The Light Masculine in me was able to access my purpose and mission in this life, and the Dark Masculine force can be used to materialize it in this world.

My desire for the immediate future is to be able to access the Dark Masculine when necessary and needed and to stand in my own power.

I know who I am, and I know what I want.

And I want to explore the work further. This was just a beginning. So I signed up for Takih’s retreat in Egypt in December. It’s actually a three week long journey, but because of other commitments, I will be able to attend only the first week. I’m hoping to gain a deeper understanding of the dynamics of these energies or aspects of ourselves.

I want to bring this into my life, so that it’s easier to live a fulfilling life and be able to appreciate our fellow travellers and especially I want to bring this powerful and alive dynamic to my intimate relationship.

How getting Body Rubs benefits your health

Today’s society is almost fanatical in it’s search for a quick fix. When we have a health problem we go to a drug store or doctor and ask for the pill that will fix it, and they are usually quick to oblige. We can pop a pill for complaints from a headache to high blood pressure to skin rashes and muscle complaints. It’s fantastic that we live in an age we can do this, suppress a problem and get on with what life is all about – working.

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Understanding Positive Negative Energy with Sensual Massage

From an holistic point of view, There is not such a thing as positive or negative energy on a natural state, there is only energy but, as anything that is meant to be in constant movement and regeneration, when energy stagnates, the consequences are negative.

understand the sensuall massage energyJust as happens with water, a healthy energy is the one flowing and constantly transforming, benefiting not only the individual but all around him. life in general becomes more pleasant which does not mean that we will not have setbacks, of course we will, but we will face them calmly, without suffering.

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Relax with an Taoist Asian Massage

A sensual massage is a great way to relax and calm down after a hard day’s work. Anne Tantric Massage use unique, erotic and sensual massage strokes to create maximum satisfaction. Such strokes are intended to treat, cure, nurture and stimulate your inner self. Sexy taoist Asian massage at Anne’s London Massage Parlour is a specialist massage that can engage all your senses and give you an experience to remember.

We offer this Asian massage service at our massage parlour which is located on the baker street, London NW1. Please feel free to visit our baker street massage parlour to see our masseuse and get the hot massage treatment you will remember for a long time.

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Another 5 tips for guys new to Erotic Massage

 

Inspired by a post from the FBSM London : Tips for Erotic Massage first-timer: What you should Do During a FBSM, I wrote another 5 tips for clients new to erotic massage (as well as some frequent visitors) .

#1 Respect Her Boundaries

How to treat your masseuseYou want to show your sensual massage therapist respect, and this means respecting her boundaries. Boundaries for sensual massage providers can vary, which means don’t assume… ask before you touch her.  Also, don’t just assume that you can kiss her without giving her some kind of warning. It’s called “Kiss rape” today and you don’t want to be labeled a kiss rapist, do you?

Make sure you’ve done research on the different London sensual massage therapists available for your area, and know what limits she has and respect those limits.

 

 

#2 Ask Questions, Just Not Too Many Personal Ones

Your massage therapist is likely to ask questions about your life – what kind of work are you involved in, where you’re coming from, etc. All too often though clients think this gives them free reign to ask the massage therapist personal details about herself.  Some may be fine answering them while others don’t like this. If your sensual massage therapist doesn’t want to answer, don’t probe them for the answer. Respect her wishes and leave it be. If you keep pressing the issue, she’s liable to become annoyed and start lying to you to protect herself.

Remember, respect! You have to give it to earn it. She may open up in later sessions, but, at the start, let it go if she doesn’t willingly share it when you first ask.

 

#3 Let The Extras Happen As They Come, Don’t Just Ask For Them Outright.

When it comes to extra services in your sensual massage, this can be a slippery slope. Remember, it’s in a grey zone in UK to ask for a sexual act in return for money. There are some FBSM providers that will provide these extra services, but that depends on a few things.  Consider their advertisements and how it’s worded. You may learn what the boundaries are.

Remember, though, it’s not included in the London erotic massage services, and if you want this type of service, you need to go with an escort service. This is what their business was designed for.

#4 Leave Your Worries and Troubles Stay Outside

The last thing you need to be doing is thinking about the things you have to do – work, clean house, take care of kids, etc. You also want to keep yourself turned off or, vibrate or silent. An erotic massage is time for yourself, so make use of it.  Your therapist won’t have her phone turned on either, and there should be no distractions at all. Everything about the outside world can wait for the 30 to 60 minutes.

Don’t cheat yourself by thinking about issues you face every day.  Think about what’s going on in the here and now, and feel the touch your provider is giving. In the end, the whole massage therapy experience will be effective.

#5 Remember To Give Her A Tip

If you like her and her service, be sure you tip her well. If she thinks you’re a penny-pincher, she may decide she’s not “available” for when you want to see her next. Tipping is also ideal for reasonable rates. If you enjoyed the service and didn’t feel like you paid enough, let her know by giving her a tip.

Tipping is also important if she went above and beyond her normal massage routine.  Remember, this was a business transaction for her, and she gave you a special service. Let her know you thank her for her time and service by rewarding her.

You’ll thank yourself later for it. And, she’s liable to remember you for it.

This article is published on London Massage Book.